![]() However, if you want up with a smile and think, “Today is a whole new day and a new chance for good things to come my way,” you’re more likely to focus on the positive. If you wake up groaning and dreading the day ahead of you, you’ll only see the bad moments. There’s a reason why they say that grumpy people “woke up on the wrong side of the bed.” How we wake up sets the tone for the entire day. ![]() How do you turn tough times into good memories, though? 1. When we’re happy, every moment is a good one. Like I said, creating good memories during easy times is effortless. How to make good memories even in the toughest of times How do we make good moments during hard times? How do we ensure that years from now, we’re looking back with a smile instead of through tears? I think that’s really one of the best gifts I can give to my future self. Do we choose to spend our days filled with anger and frustration over what we can’t change? Or do we throw ourselves into making good times now, so we have good memories later? Personally, I’d rather look back on these times (or any trying times, really) and know that I did my best to create happy memories for myself and my family. However, for many of us, we have an important choice to make. ![]() I think we can all agree that these are very trying times, right? For those affected in the most tragic of ways, I know that no amount of “focusing on the good” can ever turn these days into good memories. Ironically, those are the times when it’s really most important to focus on what’s going right in your life, especially if you want more good memories than bad later in life. Unfortunately, during harder times it’s often easier to focus on the bad stuff and forget all about the little moments that make life so wonderful. We don’t even have to work at it! I think about all the family trips we took last year- to the beach, amusement parks, even just out and about in our own city- and I’m filled with joy knowing that my kids will always have those good memories. During normal happy times, making good moments is a breeze. It makes sense, right? Of course, the good moments in our life become the best memories that we look back on when we’re older. Good Moments Make for a Lifetime of Good Memories When you’re old and gray, wouldn’t you rather take a long hike up memory mountain than a quick jaunt down memory lane? In other words, do you want to remember just a handful of giant milestones or thousands of tiny good moments? I know which I’d prefer. If you want to make memories that last forever, you need to focus on creating them now. ![]() Later in our golden years, those good memories help us keep an optimistic outlook on life. Scientists call it the “ Fading Affect Bias.” We’re basically wired to retain information related to positive life experiences and filter out the negative stuff. Studies actually show that we tend to remember the good more than the bad. Blink again and suddenly you’re a great-grandmother looking back at dozens of years’ worth of memories. The next, your own baby is starting the same journey. One minute you’re graduating high school and setting out on your adventure through adulthood. Instead, it’s like we blink, and years have gone by. Isn’t that the truth? If time ran, at least we could keep up with it. He who has good moments will have good memories.” I love that, don’t you? Let’s talk about it and see how we can turn good moments into a lifetime of good memories. I read a brilliant quote in Spanish that roughly translates to, “Time does not run, it flies.
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